Toppings

I love cheeseburgers, a lot. I’ve been eating them ever since I can remember. I always eat them the same way, with nothing on it except the meat, cheese and bun. It seems a simple order to get right, no extras. However, it isn’t normal, so the burger often comes with toppings added.

I’ve found conversations to be somewhat like that. When I mention something to someone they often tell me a similar story, rather than being interested in what I have to say and asking questions. They top what I’ve said. I get the impression they are more interested in what they have to say than listening to me, which is of course normal. Guys especially like to play this game.

I do my best to remember that when I’m listening to someone else. I try to focus on what they say and ask appropriate questions, no toppings added. It’s a little gift I can give them. They feel listened to and think I am a good conversationalist. I get the benefit of learning from them and have the opportunity to get outside of myself a little. This is another situation where less is more, see A Brief Case

May you have enough today, one moment at a time.